What's driving you?

It may be time for a change.

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A couple of weeks ago, I caught an episode of Cathy Heller’s Abundant Ever After podcast. Her guest was author, entrepreneur, and podcaster Kate Northrup.

Some of the topics they touched on included:

When your nervous system and your body feel safe, there’s a resonance in your energetic field that allows you to be a much more powerful manifestor.

We’re wired for survival, but the good news is, our nervous systems are plastic and we can update them. We just need to bring in the wiring for thriving.

If we want to teach our bodies to feel safe to do the things we’re avoiding, we need to be willing to let the emotion wash through us. It’s emotional metabolism that allows the thermostat of our nervous system to reset at a more expanded place.

But the one that hit me most deeply was their discussion of a time in Kate Northrup’s life when she was on the edge of burnout, for good reason. Her husband, who’s also her business partner and co-conspirator in life, was struggling with the recurrence of a mystery illness that basically leveled him. It left him unable to parent their now two children and work in the business. And this was at a time when they were preparing for a the major launch of a new offering. Cue financial worry and stress.

Perhaps not surprisingly, Kate Northrup was silently blaming her husband for getting sick again. In a couple’s session, their therapist asked Kate to visualize her husband coming home and saying “I’ve just made $10 million.” This would allow her not to work and not really need to do anything. And the therapist asked her, “What’s going on inside you? Not, what do you think? How does your body feel?”

Here’s what she shared:

“And I was so shocked by the response that I received, because the response that I received was a feeling of being dead inside and, like, flatlined. And I knew at that point that I was addicted to stress and pressure. And I was using stress and pressure, and had been for years, as my primary fuel source to feel alive.”

Boom. I immediately knew that this was something I needed to think about.